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Pet Loss Resources

1 Dec

Here are a few resources to help folks with the loss of a companion animal no matter what type it is in no particular order….www.petangelmemorialcenter.com, http://www.veterinarywisdom.com, http://www.griefhealing.com, http://www.aplb.org, http://www.petpartners.org,

There are also some great memorial jewelry or key chains or whatever available on Amazon. Just search your type of animal for example dog memorial jewelry or whatever you are interested in. I hope this helps everyone in their grieving process. My daughter and I found a few urn necklaces where we can always keep a piece of her with us. I think it will help us to remember her and always keep her with us. It may seem morbid but, I really dont care what folks might think. Just a small tip if you do go with some type of mini urn get some blue lock tight to put on the screw. This way it will be really hard to open it and no worries about it opening and spilling ash all over you if that is how you choose to deal with the remains of your companion.

Yesterday was a bit difficult since we got Sin’s remains back. We got her paw print and they even managed to get some of her claws in the print too. It was really sweet and a great keepsake. We also got her ashes back inside the cherry wood box which my daughter picked out. It almost feels as though she is back home and in a way I guess that she is. The house doesnt feel as empty either. I still miss her and still cry too. Her ashes came with a Certificate of Cremation and a booklet on Understanding your feelings.

I hope this and the resources listed above help folks to heal and grieve. It takes time to get over a loss and to grieve do not rush it.

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RIP

29 Nov

On Sunday early morning I lost one of our beloved cats Sin pronounced Shin. She was a beloved member of my life, has seen me at my best and worst in life. She was there for so many things both big and small through parts of my life. She has been there for the ups and downs of my life along with the small every day events to the big events. She was there when I met my husband and when we got married. She was there at the birth of my daughter. Now she is gone I will never pet her again. I will never hear her purr (she rarely purred and when we were able to get her to it was both an honor and special). I will never have her sleep with me. I will never hear her vocalizations to let me know she is hungry. I MISS her so MUCH and even though my husband has a lot of stuff, my daughter and I have our things the house feels so empty without her. She was a great cat and I know that there will never be another one like her. I know she is in a better place and with time hopefully the rest of our family will be too. My other cat knows she is gone but, I do not think she realizes or maybe she does that Sin is not coming back.

We had her cremated and had her remains put in a beautiful cherry wood box. We also get her paw print which will be a wonderful thing to have.

As she was dying she was laying on my husband and was making these soft vocalizations almost meows. I am not sure if she was telling us good bye, that she was in pain or what. We were trying to keep her warm having no idea that she was shutting down. As I type this up it has been difficult not to bawl my eyes out. This will also be almost my last cat as well. For various reasons.

I did find a book at the library called The grief recovery handbook for pet loss by Russell Friedman, Cole James and John W. James. I have only gotten through the first chapter but, if anyone else has read this book let me know if it helped you. If you have lost a companion animal aka pet recently then I encourage you to pick up this book at your local library, bookstore or online.

Sin will be greatly missed and was greatly loved and spoiled rotten.

I saw yesterday a womans post on facebook about emotional abuse

12 Oct

I really saw it on yahoo. It was very eye opening. So I want to continue it a little bit more.

He doeesnt hit you but, he isolates you from your friends and family. He makes it almost impossible for you to have let alone make new friends.

He doesnt hit you but, you always have to be home before he gets home otherwise he calls you and wants to know where you are even though you may have just told him where you are and that you will be home in 20 minutes. Its not enough he will come and get you.

He doesnt hit you but, you cant go anywhere for help because you dont fit into the physical abuse to even go to a shelter even though you may really want to.

He doesnt hit you but, you really want to end the relationship but, feel powerless and helpless because you have a child or not enough money.

If this is you then we really need to have a serious discussion and maybe even support each other. I realize that not all men do this and that even men can go through this.

My personal break through

12 Oct

I had a huge revelation for me at least. My anxiety is having my daughter taken away from me. Not sure if this is because of the many fights/arguments/disagreements that my husband and I had or what but, he would Always take our daughter with him to his parents house if I was being “too emotional” or just “too angry”. Let me explain. When we first decided to be a couple I told him that it was ok for us to take a break if we were fighting/arguing hopefully before we either go too pissed off or said something we might regret. 1. The other person has to be informed. There was NOTHING in this that said in the rules see 1. that said please, please take my daughter with you. Seriously like I want her to be with a person who is rather pissed off and might get in a car accident. Yes please let me have that extra worry. Now thanks to my husband having his lovely VMR he can no longer do that! Whew. It might also have something to do with him telling me 3 years ago that he would fight me for custody as well. No worries there. I told him to bring it. Yeah maybe not the best response but, at the time I was really mad.

9 Feb

I could not think up a decent title for this post. Ah well. February has been a bit chaotic. First our washing machine decided that draining out a lot of water was not something it needed to accomplish anytime soon. While trying to do said load of laundry my cat decides for one last good measure and fun hahaha to get violently ill. Whew! What a ride.

Thankfully our washing machine is now fixed and running good as new. I really hate our economy with having to either buy something new all the time or whatever. It really just bites. I did get both loads of laundry done so that was good. I did have to put my cats mess in a plastic bag since I couldnt take the smell. Plus my cat is hopefully over her crazy projecting.

The weather has been crazy it seems as though we loose the icy grip of winter to have almost spring like weather in the upper 50s to even 60s before we drop back down and have snow or even ice. I need off this roller coaster or even just a trip somewhere tropical. Who’s with me?

I hope others are having a better beginning to this month.

Season of change

19 Jan

I have an elderly cat who has had a rough time of it lately. At first I thought with the bitter cold she just caught a cold or even the cat version of the flu. Now I am not so sure I think at least in dog years she is about 85 years old or possibly older. She is still having issues. Today she was ill again and almost used the couch as her litter box. I love her to bits and pieces but, am not sure how much longer I can keep up with the roller coaster ride of her seeming to get better aka keeping food down and then going back to not feeling better. I will do my best to give her until the spring with hopefully warmer temperatures and see how she does but, if there is not much improvement I may just have to say good bye and that will hurt a lot. What do you all think? I really would love an outsiders opinion on this.

Illnesses

4 Jan

As you know from my previous post there has been a lot of illness and a lot of messes to be cleaned up. Everyone is on the mend or is better. I have no idea how I have managed to avoid being ill so far. The only thing that I have done is eat a lot of umeboshi which is a pickled plum. The Japanese swear by it for preventing illnesses, helping with that time of the month and other things. Warning they are very sour so eating one and making sure you mind the pit with a small bowl of rice or whatever just to cut the sour will work. I have also been eating more rice lately because we got a new rice cooker that makes really good rice not that our other one didnt but, it is nice to have a timer and to be able to keep it warm for an extended amount of time. I have also gotten a lot of rest as well. This has been very nice not having to get up before the crack of dawn. Now that school is back in session I am very sad.

I have also been drinking warm/hot fluids. Like tea and coffee. Green tea especially is a good antioxidant. Not sure if this will prevent you or even myself from getting the flu but, it is worth a try.

Stay warm, safe and healthy.