What to do

17 Apr

What do you do when it seems the world is crashing down around you?  You have bills due or past due, taxes needing to be filed, your car, washing machine or other major appliance just broke down, you child is not doing well in school or your child is not respecting your no to the request to go outside in 40 degree weather with shorts on and sandals.  Everything that can go wrong goes wrong.  WHATEVER You do DO NOT ask the universe or God(s) or Goddesses to bring it on.  I did that and have honestly never had such bad luck/karma before in my life.  So what do you do?  Do you rant and rave about how unfair it all is, curse, cry, and scream.  Ok yeah maybe you do initially.  

 Remember to just breathe and take it one step at a time.  If all else fails take a break for a few minutes or even an hour whatever you can spare and dont think about all the stuff going wrong.  Think about what is going right from the fresh air, the sun on your face, the fact that you had a good/great cup of coffee to drink this afternoon or this morning.  The fact that you have the ability to walk and move your legs and are in decent enough shape and health. Remember to smile even give yourself a smile in the mirror.  Yeah it might sound a little  hooky but, it might just help to lift your mood.  If you can have a tickle fight with your child when you can again a great mood booster.  Then once you have thought about all the stuff even if it is the tiniest thing you can think of that is going right in your day or life at the moment.  It is hard to find something good within all the chaos that is currently your life but, with time and patience it will get better. 

Go back to the harder stuff one thing at a time.  Pay what bills you can with what you can and then see about getting whatever you need fixed, fixed. 

To give you an example of a bad run of luck or karma I will tell you briefly what happened to me more than 10 + years ago.  I was in a marriage that was failing despite my best efforts, we got divorced, and then the car I had was breaking down every month for 6 months straight all while trying to mend a broken heart and stop feeling like a failure, lets not forget the joy of the holidays in this mix too when everyone else is feeling great you feel your worst. It really sucked. Now years later I am married again (never thought that would happen), have a 5 year old who I am very proud of even if I do want to rip my hair out from time to time, and will soon be celebrating our 7 year anniversary.  I am almost debt free after swimming in debt before.  I am not saying it is all roses and sunshine daily.  It took a lot of work to get to this point of feeling happy with life and most importantly with myself.

I hope this helps you when life is kicking you repeatedly in the backside.  Just knowing someone was there and feels your pain helps.  

One last thing call a friend or your spouse and just let it all out.  That helps sometimes too.   

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