Fall weather

2 Oct

We have now hit fall weather. It has been in the mid 60s to mid 50s. It has been a bit unsettling. I love fall with the beauty of the leaves falling but,am not a huge fan of all the rain we have been getting it makes the mid 60s feel even colder.
Whats your favorite season?
Today my daughter was supposed to have a field trip to a local orchard which would have been a lot of fun for us both but, unfortunately it was cancelled due to the rain. I really hope that the weather is better next week since it will be fall break for my daughter. I really want to do a few outdoorsy type of things with her.
I have been losing weight and am loving my new body. My jeans fall off me without a belt and I feel better and lighter. It also helps doing yoga poses. I can hold them longer if I want to. If you struggle with your weight I have one suggestion have some yogurt for every breakfast with some quick oats, flax oil or flax seed meal, some honey or even agavi nectar, and a bit of lemon juice. It keeps me full until lunch time and has helped me to lose the weight I need to. I feel better and have more energy. If you want add a piece of fruit with it as well. Remember portion control I usually add about 3-6 teasoons of yogurt and I dont fill the bowl up to the top even with all the add ins. I have been eating a “French” breakfast and rarely will I splurge and have frozen waffles or even vegan breakfast sausage. Try this for one month and just see if you start to feel better. Plus this strangely simplifies my life because every day I know what I am having for breakfast. I also throw in once a week a smoothie for breakfast just to break up having the same thing every day.
Enjoy your weekend and take some time out to see the fall leaves.

Long week

30 Sep

Last week was a long week because of the issue with my daughters friend as mentioned in a previous post but, also that Tuesday the same friend decided to put her hand on my daughters face between the jaw bones to get her to look at something. My daughter said that it hurt and if anyone has had a parent or even a child grab their face in such a manner to turn the head it hurts.

I had my daughter participate in my free yoga class after I asked if it was ok. It is free and offered by my local library (gotta love free non things). I thought it might help her to relax and be calm after the fiasco with her “friend”. It did but, then the following day my daughter was running a high temperature and we took her in to the doctors. She did not have strep or the flu but, was prescribed plenty of rest and relaxation. Poor kid. She normally eats pretty well but, has so far not eaten very much.. She is better today and is almost back to normal. Yesterday we tried to see if she was up for school but, her fever was still too high. So more rest. I am glad that the doctor did not put her on an antibiotic I personally think that we rely and perhaps prescribe them too much for things.
I am finally caught up on my emails. The delete button works wonders for getting rid of a lot of emails you absolutely have no time to read or are “old news”.
This week will be hopefully much better now that my daughter is feeling better. Maybe getting a new Monster High doll helped lol. She loves Monster High and I am having her work for this doll. Little things like sweeping her room, getting her lunch box and water bottle in her backpack in the mornings just to help me out. Tired of waiting on her hand and foot. Might make some of this more permanent.


22 Sep

My daughter is still having issues with a few choice “friends” in the neighborhood. I was proud of her because yesterday she wanted to play with said “friend” and I told her to be back by a certain time. She comes home 20 minutes later. I thought the other friend had to eat dinner or needed to get a few things done. No that was not it. Instead this “friend” decided to hit my daughter on the head several times claiming there was a bug on her and they were doing this with a bit of force. Now that my daughter is in Tae Quan Do she has learned how to block a few hits. So I asked her if she blocked them. She said no that she just decided to leave because she was mad. Now I do understand that you want to leave because you might say or do something that you might regret later after you have a chance to cool down. That is why I am proud of her for being the bigger person. I of course felt the need to go have a talk with the “friend” by letting them know that I did appreciate them getting bugs off my daughter but, that I thought that maybe next time they try something a bit more gentle. I did not get an apology from this “friend” nor did I get one from their mother. Are we raising a bunch of self serving, cruel and bratty children who will grow up to be some awful person later in life? Sorry just ranting. I do wonder and fear that sometimes.
I did tell my daughter that this friend will at least for now always be a scorpion. If you remember the tale of the scorpion who wanted to cross a river but, had no way to get a cross except for the aid of a frog (there are other versions) and promised not to sting the frog so the frog allowed the scorpion on its back only to be stung in the middle of the stream. The frog asked why but, the scorpion replied it is in my nature. I told my daughter that this “friend” will be sweet one minute while she stings you the next. Perhaps this is unfair but, I do believe accurate at least for now.
I hope the next time a “friend” decides to hit my daughter that she blocks them. This is after all what and why she is in Tae Quan Do not that I am advocating violence.

Any thoughts?

Windows and kindness

26 Aug

Today I kissed and waved good bye to Windows OS so I no longer have windows on my new computer. However when you do change your OS it can be interesting and full of challenges. So it is still not working but, I am getting closer to having my own computer.

My daughter is still having issues at home and at school with “friends” not being very kind. I even decided to stick my nose in where it doesnt belong and even have called my daughter’s school to deal with a few issues there. It needs to be done. I know it is a double edged sword for kids. If you tell on someone you are seen and even labeled as a tattle taler. However, if you dont say something you are either a. left alone (usually doesn’t happen) or b. you are picked on even worse (which totally stinks aka sucks). I do want my daughter to stand up for herself however, I understand that it is very hard when you have very few options.

Does anyone have any thoughts or ideas on how to handle these situations? I am new to this but, not new to being bullied.

The new computer and other news

18 Aug

Well recently I got a new computer it was cheap less than $300. I was really wanting my own so that way I could download articles or other links from websites I frequent. Now I can almost do that. It comes with the latest version of windows and I am not a fan of windows. So it will have a version of Linux on it as I prefer something more simple without all the bells and whistles that come with windows. Yes I spent money I perhaps should not have but since the computer that died its horrible death I have been using my husbands chrome book and am not a fan of it because of google.
It was not meet well with the news that I had gotten a computer by my husband. Yes we fought. All is better now and in hindsight I would still do it again.
The other news is that there has been a lot of drama in my life. A friend/someone I know who has a daughter that my daughter plays with lost custody of her kids due to various things after fighting for joint custody and other mess going on. So my daughters friend is no longer going to the same school which has been difficult for her to come to terms with.
My mother in law who is the person normally getting clothes for our daughter or at least the main bulk will be losing her overtime and hence disposable income to get the clothes for our daughter. Of course this was brought up during our kerfafle between my husband and the computer. So I told him that she just would not have as much clothes (which I for one see as a good thing) and that I have no issues with her getting clothes from goodwill or other cheap places. I have no issues with it since she is growing so fast.
I do purchase clothes for our daughter I just dont go as overboard as my in law does.
I have been making plans to take my daughter to Paris in six years. This way we can both enjoy it more and I hope to have lots of $$$$ saved up for food, lodging, sight seeing and of course the plane tickets over seas.
So minus the computer this is the last hopefully big ticket item I will be buying for a very long while.

On a brighter note we now have two cars. This was not an easy decision for us because of the added expense but, with our daughter wanting to do after school activities, and needing to be picked up from school in cases of illness. It just seemed like the better thing to do. This way I now have a car for just those things and I can run any errands that need to be done/taken care of. Plus it is less stress on my husband in cases of illness not having to drive 30 + minutes to go pick up our daughter, bring her home, and then go back to work then come home. Less wear and tear on at least one vehicle.
My daughter is now enrolled in Tae Kwan Do so that should be interesting and exciting for her. I hope she likes it.


25 Jul

Ok maybe not panic but, it is about that dreaded and perhaps glorious time of year again. As summer winds down, the kids are about to go back to school, and the cries of “I’m Bored!” fade away to be a distant cry.

It is glorious because as soon as your child gets on the bus you the parent either go to work or you get to have that glorious free time to do what you want. Gone are the days were you have to watch animated (unless you want to) flicks, you can now watch something adult. You no longer have to hear whining while you are in the store because your child wants you to buy X. Utter bliss and calm are yours for at least a few hours until your child gets home from school where it perhaps will start again and if you are lucky it will not.

I have gotten all of my daughters school supplies all for about $20 not too bad. We recycled aka are reusing a few of her school supplies from last year and went to a dollar store aka big box store to get the rest of her supplies. Yes evil but, also very cheap too.

My mom told me that K-mart was having a sale on Hello Kitty stuff so I asked my mom to get our daughter a sheet set for her bed, a big girls towel and washcloth set, and a new backpack. My mom also asked me what our daughter needs for clothes and I told her a couple of pairs of jeans would be great. So she got her some along with a few long sleeved shirts. Yet another big box store but, also useful in getting a few things my daughter needs.

Earlier this week my daughter and I each made for free at the library a miniature fairy garden. It is super cute, and is like a terrarium but, with a slight touch of whimsy to it. Plus I love having plants. We went yesterday to Michaels because while we were making our fairy gardens a few folks brought in some super cute embellishments to add to their fairy gardens. So we decided to get a few for ours as well. My daughter got a chair, door, temple, and dog. I got a few mushrooms, frogs, and turtle we got all of the above for a little over $20 not too bad since my budget/all I was willing to spend was $20.

I also have a great idea that is cheap for folks for a holiday gift too. Love that!

Today I swear it was fairy revenge day lol. I set my alarm to wake me up only it did not go off and instead my husbands alarm went off super early. Only he never set his for Friday. Very weird.

Why we have wars?

8 Jul

Monday was a bad day for my daughter. First off she called a “friend” to see if she could play with them. This girl answers the phone by asking my daughter what she wants. No “Hi” no greeting of any kind. It goes on from there she then tells my daughter that she copied her in the park Last Tuesday by stating she wanted to join in gymnastics. She then tells my daughter that “She has no talent”. At that point I hung up the phone on her. She calls back and wants to talk to my daughter. I told her no that she could not talk to her (I was afraid that she would say even worse things to her) because what she said was very rude. I told her they could still be friends if she wanted but, that my daughter would not be talking anymore to her today.

Then later she decides to play with the girl next door who then decides that breaking my daughters chalk is a good idea and ok to do all because she is in a foul mood. Sorry folks when I am in a bad mood I do not take it out on Other Peoples STUFF.

So I told my daughter that she could not play with either of these “lovely” people for the rest of the week.

Now for my theory of why we have wars: Somewhere along the way we have forgotten how to be kind and nice to eachother. Instead rudeness, bullying, foul language and just the need or urge to say rude things to eachother. I do realize that this does not cover every war or every reason but, I really think that maybe going back to being nice and kind to each other is much better and a kinder way to deal with folks.

I realize that it is harder to be nice and kind. It takes more effort than just to pop off that rude gesture or comment. So the next time you accidentally cut someone off in traffic and they honk at you instead of saying something rude or the lovely hand gesture. Just realize that they had every right to give you that reminder of being safe and not hitting them. Or whatever the situation is just remember that kindness and being nice is a better way to handle something. Not saying it works for every situation because you may be within your rights to yell or get angry but, just try to be nice. Remember WORDS HAVE MORE POWER than fists or kicks because the bruises and cuts heal. The words stay with a person longer.


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