Notre Dame

17 Apr

As most people know Notre Dame in Paris caught fire and it is a huge blow to not only a historic landmark but, to Paris, France, and Catholics. I am extremely grateful that my daughter and I were able to see Notre Dame whole and complete with the spire up on top as it should be.

If you would like to help here is a link and it is a 501c3 and all donations will be tax deductible. or just go to Friends of Notre Dame here

Here is another link to give you a very brief history of why this building is so important to Paris, to France, to history and to Catholics.

If these links do not work let me know and I will do my best to fix it.
Please consider donating to help with the restoration of this beautiful building even $5 would help whatever you can afford to give.

Thank you so much.


VMR and my beauty routine

21 Feb

As some of you know my husband has Vaso Motor Rhinitis which to me basically means that he is allergic to everything that smells great to most of the rest of the world. Just a small list of things he is allergic to in no particular order….aloe vera, lavender, hickory, chocolate etc.

So this is my skin care routine and some of the products that I use. Every morning I wash my face with water using a Konjac sponge you can use a facial cleanser as well but, I just use warm water. I then use wheat germ oil on my face it moisturizes and has a natural spf of 15 so to a small point my skin is protected from the sun. I then use a vegan blush and wet and wild shimmer palette. For my eyes I use the two faced chocolate bar 16 shimmer and matte shade pallet. I also use my Aveda brown mascara if it is not snowing or raining. Then I am done. I dont put much on and during the summer I normally skip the eye shadow and will wear my 100 percent pure eyeliner and am done. I will wear either a nice red shade of lip gloss or a pink.

In the evening I wash my face with an unscented soap yes, I did say soap. I will use either almond oil or hemp oil on my face and around my eyes.

Once a month I will use my gua sha facial massager I find that it helps with wrinkles, fine lines, and helps to tone your face up. I do this for about 8 minutes on my face. I will also use Aztec secret Indian Healing clay it will also help to tighten up and tone your face as well and is great for a deep cleans. I leave the clay on until I try to smile and it feels really tight or just hard to do. I will if I have extra add it to my hair for a deep conditioning, neck and upper chest area. I also use left over coffee grounds to gently exfoliate my face. I put the extra coffee grounds that I can never seem to get out of our coffee grinder in a mortar and pestle to make sure they are really extra fine and ground up even more. I then put these in a small bowl with some olive oil and mix the two together I rub it on to my face and neck and leave on for about five minutes before rinsing off normally in the shower and if I have extra I use that next time I shower.

If you have acne prone skin or sensitive skin most I believe will work for sensitive skin but for acne I have no clue.

I use oatmeal soap on my body and dr. bronners castile soap baby unscented to wash my hair. I use it because it is vegan, unscented, has a good lather and seems to work with my hair. Plus I can get it refilled at my local coop. If my skin is particularly dry I use an unscented lotion, body butter, or even olive oil.

If I decide to color my hair or dye it I use light mountain henna of whatever shade is for you or manic panic is vegan as well and I use that for a bit more colorful colors.

Most of these things you can find on amazon, 100 percent pure website, Aveda’s website, Sephora’s website, for the facial massager, and for my lip glosses try they are long lasting so you can eat and drink to your hearts content without needing to reapply. The hair dye manic or a wild oats will have the light mountain henna.

Most of the things I use are vegan or at least cruelty free which is great.

One last recommendation if you are in need of a comfortable shirt/s to wear with leggings that will pass dress codes for school or work. I found these on amazon search for womens shirt dress. They are supper long in the back so it has your butt well covered, and is long enough in the front with a high low style to cover your belly and the other bits all without having to find a Victorian dress to wear and far more comfortable.

Why am I recommending a lot of stuff on line or from amazon well I am not allowed to go into the mall because they have a lot of “stinky” stuff that my husband is allergic to and I cant wear perfume.

Why did I recommend the chocolate bar eye shadow pallet? Yes my husband is allergic to chocolate but, I am not and it is one of the few things that I fought and demanded to have. I gave up everything else so this is one thing I put my foot down on. Plus who can resist the smell of chocolate and this pallet smells Amazing.

For coats I recommend Scotty Vest. They are all vegan and have a ton of pockets plus if you travel or even occasionally travel even better.

For vegan handbags I recommend Gunas, Corkor, Arden Cove, and Angela Roi.

Hope this helps if you are allergic to certain things or have VMR or are living with someone who has VMR.

Pet Loss Resources

1 Dec

Here are a few resources to help folks with the loss of a companion animal no matter what type it is in no particular order…,,,,,

There are also some great memorial jewelry or key chains or whatever available on Amazon. Just search your type of animal for example dog memorial jewelry or whatever you are interested in. I hope this helps everyone in their grieving process. My daughter and I found a few urn necklaces where we can always keep a piece of her with us. I think it will help us to remember her and always keep her with us. It may seem morbid but, I really dont care what folks might think. Just a small tip if you do go with some type of mini urn get some blue lock tight to put on the screw. This way it will be really hard to open it and no worries about it opening and spilling ash all over you if that is how you choose to deal with the remains of your companion.

Yesterday was a bit difficult since we got Sin’s remains back. We got her paw print and they even managed to get some of her claws in the print too. It was really sweet and a great keepsake. We also got her ashes back inside the cherry wood box which my daughter picked out. It almost feels as though she is back home and in a way I guess that she is. The house doesnt feel as empty either. I still miss her and still cry too. Her ashes came with a Certificate of Cremation and a booklet on Understanding your feelings.

I hope this and the resources listed above help folks to heal and grieve. It takes time to get over a loss and to grieve do not rush it.


29 Nov

On Sunday early morning I lost one of our beloved cats Sin pronounced Shin. She was a beloved member of my life, has seen me at my best and worst in life. She was there for so many things both big and small through parts of my life. She has been there for the ups and downs of my life along with the small every day events to the big events. She was there when I met my husband and when we got married. She was there at the birth of my daughter. Now she is gone I will never pet her again. I will never hear her purr (she rarely purred and when we were able to get her to it was both an honor and special). I will never have her sleep with me. I will never hear her vocalizations to let me know she is hungry. I MISS her so MUCH and even though my husband has a lot of stuff, my daughter and I have our things the house feels so empty without her. She was a great cat and I know that there will never be another one like her. I know she is in a better place and with time hopefully the rest of our family will be too. My other cat knows she is gone but, I do not think she realizes or maybe she does that Sin is not coming back.

We had her cremated and had her remains put in a beautiful cherry wood box. We also get her paw print which will be a wonderful thing to have.

As she was dying she was laying on my husband and was making these soft vocalizations almost meows. I am not sure if she was telling us good bye, that she was in pain or what. We were trying to keep her warm having no idea that she was shutting down. As I type this up it has been difficult not to bawl my eyes out. This will also be almost my last cat as well. For various reasons.

I did find a book at the library called The grief recovery handbook for pet loss by Russell Friedman, Cole James and John W. James. I have only gotten through the first chapter but, if anyone else has read this book let me know if it helped you. If you have lost a companion animal aka pet recently then I encourage you to pick up this book at your local library, bookstore or online.

Sin will be greatly missed and was greatly loved and spoiled rotten.

I saw yesterday a womans post on facebook about emotional abuse

12 Oct

I really saw it on yahoo. It was very eye opening. So I want to continue it a little bit more.

He doeesnt hit you but, he isolates you from your friends and family. He makes it almost impossible for you to have let alone make new friends.

He doesnt hit you but, you always have to be home before he gets home otherwise he calls you and wants to know where you are even though you may have just told him where you are and that you will be home in 20 minutes. Its not enough he will come and get you.

He doesnt hit you but, you cant go anywhere for help because you dont fit into the physical abuse to even go to a shelter even though you may really want to.

He doesnt hit you but, you really want to end the relationship but, feel powerless and helpless because you have a child or not enough money.

If this is you then we really need to have a serious discussion and maybe even support each other. I realize that not all men do this and that even men can go through this.

My personal break through

12 Oct

I had a huge revelation for me at least. My anxiety is having my daughter taken away from me. Not sure if this is because of the many fights/arguments/disagreements that my husband and I had or what but, he would Always take our daughter with him to his parents house if I was being “too emotional” or just “too angry”. Let me explain. When we first decided to be a couple I told him that it was ok for us to take a break if we were fighting/arguing hopefully before we either go too pissed off or said something we might regret. 1. The other person has to be informed. There was NOTHING in this that said in the rules see 1. that said please, please take my daughter with you. Seriously like I want her to be with a person who is rather pissed off and might get in a car accident. Yes please let me have that extra worry. Now thanks to my husband having his lovely VMR he can no longer do that! Whew. It might also have something to do with him telling me 3 years ago that he would fight me for custody as well. No worries there. I told him to bring it. Yeah maybe not the best response but, at the time I was really mad.

9 Feb

I could not think up a decent title for this post. Ah well. February has been a bit chaotic. First our washing machine decided that draining out a lot of water was not something it needed to accomplish anytime soon. While trying to do said load of laundry my cat decides for one last good measure and fun hahaha to get violently ill. Whew! What a ride.

Thankfully our washing machine is now fixed and running good as new. I really hate our economy with having to either buy something new all the time or whatever. It really just bites. I did get both loads of laundry done so that was good. I did have to put my cats mess in a plastic bag since I couldnt take the smell. Plus my cat is hopefully over her crazy projecting.

The weather has been crazy it seems as though we loose the icy grip of winter to have almost spring like weather in the upper 50s to even 60s before we drop back down and have snow or even ice. I need off this roller coaster or even just a trip somewhere tropical. Who’s with me?

I hope others are having a better beginning to this month.