Spring cleaning

18 Apr

Today I got to take my daughter to my moms house for a few hours so I get a break, although this week has not been too bad. 

I also got rid of about 4 items.  2 purses, a shirt and the hanger that goes with it. Not too bad still trying to weed out my closet but, getting there is a constant battle and is slow going.  I still feel that I have too many purses and too many clothes but, simplifying is a journey and a process.  I highly doubt I will ever end up with less than 100 things or whatever number folks feel good about owning.  I am much better off than I used to be with far too many clothes and purses.  Now it seems almost just right.  

With Easter around the corner remember to not give pets as gifts during the holidays.  It may seem like a good/great idea but once the pet loses its cuteness and becomes an adult from a baby or youngster a lot tend to loose their appeal and end up in shelters because it is a bigger responsibility and expense than most folks think it will be.  

If your child or you want a pet that is Easter themed remember to do a bit of research to find out what your pet may need for food and other care and wait until after Easter is over to decide for everyones sake.  

What to do

17 Apr

What do you do when it seems the world is crashing down around you?  You have bills due or past due, taxes needing to be filed, your car, washing machine or other major appliance just broke down, you child is not doing well in school or your child is not respecting your no to the request to go outside in 40 degree weather with shorts on and sandals.  Everything that can go wrong goes wrong.  WHATEVER You do DO NOT ask the universe or God(s) or Goddesses to bring it on.  I did that and have honestly never had such bad luck/karma before in my life.  So what do you do?  Do you rant and rave about how unfair it all is, curse, cry, and scream.  Ok yeah maybe you do initially.  

 Remember to just breathe and take it one step at a time.  If all else fails take a break for a few minutes or even an hour whatever you can spare and dont think about all the stuff going wrong.  Think about what is going right from the fresh air, the sun on your face, the fact that you had a good/great cup of coffee to drink this afternoon or this morning.  The fact that you have the ability to walk and move your legs and are in decent enough shape and health. Remember to smile even give yourself a smile in the mirror.  Yeah it might sound a little  hooky but, it might just help to lift your mood.  If you can have a tickle fight with your child when you can again a great mood booster.  Then once you have thought about all the stuff even if it is the tiniest thing you can think of that is going right in your day or life at the moment.  It is hard to find something good within all the chaos that is currently your life but, with time and patience it will get better. 

Go back to the harder stuff one thing at a time.  Pay what bills you can with what you can and then see about getting whatever you need fixed, fixed. 

To give you an example of a bad run of luck or karma I will tell you briefly what happened to me more than 10 + years ago.  I was in a marriage that was failing despite my best efforts, we got divorced, and then the car I had was breaking down every month for 6 months straight all while trying to mend a broken heart and stop feeling like a failure, lets not forget the joy of the holidays in this mix too when everyone else is feeling great you feel your worst. It really sucked. Now years later I am married again (never thought that would happen), have a 5 year old who I am very proud of even if I do want to rip my hair out from time to time, and will soon be celebrating our 7 year anniversary.  I am almost debt free after swimming in debt before.  I am not saying it is all roses and sunshine daily.  It took a lot of work to get to this point of feeling happy with life and most importantly with myself.

I hope this helps you when life is kicking you repeatedly in the backside.  Just knowing someone was there and feels your pain helps.  

One last thing call a friend or your spouse and just let it all out.  That helps sometimes too.   

Taxes

16 Apr

Ahhh today is the day unless you have managed to do your taxes early or efile your taxes.  For the rest of the US it is a day of stress as you franticly get your taxes done and in the mail.  We of course got our taxes done this past weekend.   

 What about you?  Did you wait until the last minute or did you file early?  

 

Stuff

15 Apr

I have a great video link for folks to enjoy and think about stuffocation.org/video/.  It is very fascinating and interesting. I totally agree with having experiences more than stuff.  It is very interesting but, long so be prepared to sit still for awhile.  

I actually came across this via this site http://www.shedmom.com/link-share-shunning-excessive-consumerism/.  

This has helped me with dealing with my CDs that I was struggling with.  I have decided to keep a few of my favorite artists/bands.  These include in no particular order Metallica(yes I am still a metal head), Megadeth, Enya, Moody Blues, Tina Turner, and Type O Negative.  I realize that my tastes in music are really diverse and different but, these I think will be the ones to hang on to and to enjoy later maybe not when I turn into an old fuddy duddy but, at least I will have a few I can and will enjoy until then along with some for later in life.  

I hope this helps folks with their issue of whatever it is you are hanging on to. If all else fails take the suggestion from the stuffocation video and put it in a bag for 30 days if you dont get anything out for 30 days then get rid of it.  

 

CDS

10 Apr

Well I have not only been having issues with my daughter, I have also been “spring” cleaning my house a bit here and there and I have also been trying to get rid of a lot of my CDs.  I have 2 small boxes filled with CDs and I gotta say that even though I hardly ever listen to them anymore I am still not wanting to get rid of a lot of them. It really stinks.  I will give it a few days and hopefully by next week have another mostly full box going out the door of my CDs.  I have no idea why it is so hard for me to toss most of the lot in a box and be done with it. Maybe my best bet would be to just grab the box of CDs not even go through them and just take them to be sold. I might try that strategy next week.  I mean after all I have not missed them in all this time of not listening to them about 4 years or so give or take.  

I did want to share a link with folks….handcraftedtravellers.com/travel-lightly-through-life/.  It is a great post and I wanted to share it with folks.  

Difficult few days

9 Apr

M y daughter last Friday had a COMPLETE and utter melt down.  She called me a monster, said she didnt love me and that she felt that I loved whatever fur creature better than her all because I did not say Yes to her request.  Wow I was at my breaking point Friday and really wanted to run away to France for 6 weeks while my husband had the thrill and joy of dealing with all of this. Along with this fit over whatever and name calling etc comes the screaming and yelling I really feel like I am having PTSD because it has been going on for so long.  I really would have except for the fact I have no passport otherwise I would have probably booked a flight.  Seriously I have just needed a break from the constant battles with her that seem to escalate over little things.  The only time I get a break from all of this is if she spends time with her grandparents on the weekends.  My husband, in laws, and mom all think she is an Angel yeah they have not seen the horns like I have.    

 Sunday she came back early and we had another go round all because her dad had to leave for a little while.  

Monday was more of the same… it all started with her seeing my anniversary gift to my husband (he got it early because he was going to buy it himself and I had no choice but to stop him from getting it). She wanted it for her self and she wanted it NOW!  I had, had enough and actually called my mom I was so fed up and angry. Yup you can think a miracle occurred.  My mom of course did not go through what I am currently going through with our daughter with me yet she still is the one who doesnt love me!  Grrr.    At least a portion of this was all because she wants to spend more time with folks on the weekends.  I asked her if she has told them that and she said no.  I told her that I do not appreciate her making my life a living hell all because she will not ask for what she needs or wants.  Yeah I was not a very kind mom at this juncture after finding out that this was the issue.  

I have now just started to actually physically and mentally hate getting up in the mornings because I am so afraid that I will have to get ready to rumble and have no idea how to stop her from being this way.  I really did not want to get up this morning but, knew I had to.    I really am believing that she will not be bullied in school but will be the bullier instead.  I am also hating when my husband leaves for work because that means I will be alone with her.  By the time the evening comes around and my husband finally comes home I am just wanting to crawl into bed because I am utterly exhausted.   This is no way to live and I hate it that it has become like this for me!  Do not get me wrong folks I do LOVE my daughter but, I am currently HATING the BS I am going through and dealing with.  She is fine around everyone else BUT, ME and it sucks.  JUST once I would love for her to do half the stuff she has done to me to others in the family.  

Today is still young and early. 

Sorry for the rant I am done for now.  

 

On the plus side my dads Birthday was yesterday so a Happy Belated at least blog wise Birthday to my Dad.  Be seeing you soon and I cant wait for a chance to relax.  

MIA

4 Apr

ImageImageI thought that since my other belt bag was MIA and that I would never get it.  I decided to order another one for my trip and I got it the same day as my daughters birthday.  So I guess you could say that I got a birthday present on my daughters birthday or whatever.   This one came with a very thin wallet type bag in it so that is great.  

 It is adjustable with a flat head screwdriver and you can make it into a clutch and take off the belt part. 

ImageThis is the companies Manifesto and I absolutely love it and think it is great words to live by.    This one arrived much faster than the week and a half and the whole joy of not knowing where it was.  I am so grateful that they took pity on me and decided to send it FedEx. 

Do I absolutely need 2 of these belt bags no not really but, then again my sister in law will be moving to Columbia so the first one might make a great thing for her to have so that way she can carry her necessities without being possibly robbed.  

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